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You mentioned that something is missing in your life and that you feel a "void" and long to be whole. I am here to tell you that you are not alone! I believe every person is born with a void in his or her soul/life, and God can only fill it; hence, why it is commonly referred to as the “God-shaped hole." Oftentimes, we attempt to fill that "emptiness" or "void" with relationships, objects, money, sex, entertainment, new experiences, fame, etc. However, while these things may bring ephemeral joy they can never bring true happiness, fulfillment, or peace. In fact, they will only leave us longing for more. Contentment is found only through Christ Jesus by the indwelling of the Holy Spirit. "My peace I give you. I do not give it to you as the world does" (John 14:27).
God has placed "eternity in man's heart" because He pines to be with us not only now, but forever (Ecclesiastes 3:11). The Bible tells us that God is perfect, holy and just, and that He loves us with an "everlasting love" (Psalm 18:30, Deuteronomy 32:4, Jeremiah 31:3). However, the Bible tells us our sins separate us from God. If you have ever broken at least "one" of the Ten Commandments, you cannot enter into His perfect heaven. Romans 3:23 says, "For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God." The good news is that God loves us so much that He made a way for us to be with Him forever! He sent His only Son, Jesus Christ, into the world to live a perfect and sinless life. Jesus freely laid His life down for us on the cross, bearing "all" our sins, so we can be made right with God. Because of what He did, we are made "perfect" in God's eyes (Hebrews 10:14). You told me to show you "genuine love." Jesus said, "There is 'no greater love' than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends" (John 15:13). He demonstrated His love for you. Moreover, Romans 5:8 say, "God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners." Love is spelled out in the Bible in God's plan for our salvation. You told me to "show you truth." Jesus stated, "I am the way and 'the truth' and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me" (John 14:6). Through Jesus, we can be forgiven of all our sin. Scripture says, "If you confess with your mouth and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved (that is to have eternal life after you die) (Romans 10:9-10).
Friend, I promise I will never judge or condemn you. In John 8, a woman was caught in the act of adultery, and an angry mob of men wanted to stone her for committing that sin. Jesus responded by telling the men that whoever is sinless should throw the first stone! Since we are all guilty of sin, no one could cast a single stone (1 John 1:8). Jesus had exposed their hypocrisy! Instead of casting judgment upon the woman, Jesus saved her life by offering her forgiveness, then told her to leave her life of sin (John 8:11). I am called to be an imitator of Christ, so I will never judge you. I will only tell you the good news that you can be forgiven and be redeemed through the blood of Christ (Ephesians 5:1).
I promise I will “never give up on you” as we are called to sharpen, edify, and exhort each other (Proverbs 27:17, 1 Thessalonians 5:11). Most importantly, we are called to love one another! Jesus said, “All people will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another” (John 13:35). It is also one of the most important commandments (John 13:34). However, I need you to remember one thing. Man is fallible, and I may disappoint you at times. However, in Christ, we always have forgiveness! We can only look to Him, who is perfect!
When is Ambition Good? 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 "This should be your ambition: to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we commanded you before."
Ambition is good when it is directed not at the size of an accomplishment but at the quality of our character.
Romans 15:20 "My mission has always been to preach the good news where the name of Christ has never been." Paul's great ambition was to preach about Christ around the world. How Can We Use Ambition to Glorify God?
Philippians 2:3 "Don't live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself."
Selfish ambition becomes Godly ambition when transformed by a personal relationship with Jesus Christ.
PROMISE FROM GOD: Psalm 119: 1-5 "Happy are people of Integrity, who follow the law of the Lord. Happy are those who search for him with all their hearts."
·Not willing to show mercy;
excuse people’s faults
·Not allowing for mistakes, carelessness, or weakness.
·Unforgiveness “is a SIN”. It’s a resentful
attitude that spawns a full range of evil thoughts and actions.
·Unforgiveness produces a
cycle of bitterness, “unrighteous” fruit.
Ephesians 4:31Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.
A.What forgiveness IS NOT.
1. Forgiveness is not ignoring the sin.
a. God does not overlook sins and neither should His people.
b. Jesus said, “If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him” (Luke 17:3).
2.Forgiveness is not putting the offender onprobation while we discuss how inexcusable his behavior was, and then promise to forgive if no further offenses are forthcoming. IE - Clause/contract:"I'll only forgive him if he forgives me."
3.Forgiveness is more than a refusal to retaliate
or repay evil for evil. A person can refrain
from such and still harbor bitterness & ill will.
Satan trick you into thinking you've forgiven when you haven’t.)
4.Forgiveness is not forgetting the offense. “Forgive and
forget”. Never put yourself in harm’s way.
B. What IS forgiveness?
1. Perhaps we can better tell what
forgiveness is by observing what God does when He forgives.
a. When God forgives, He removes the notation of wrong
from His record. Acts 3:19 - “Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out.”
b. When God forgives . . . He doesn’t
condemn us for
the wrong we did.. our sins are completely forgiven. God does not remember our
sins in the way He treats us.
Romans 8:1 tells us there is no condemnation
for those who are in Christ.
Biblical examples of forgiveness:
33:4- Esau forgave Jacob for stealing his family inheritance. Years later when
they met up, Esau ran to Jacob and hugged him and kissed him and showed forgiveness and mercy. He had so forgiven Jacob that he was surprised
Jacob would even think that there might be hard feelings between them!!!
forgave his brothers for selling him into slavery.
In Numbers 12:1-13 - Moses forgave Miriam & Aaron (brother/sister) for speaking against him for marrying a
Cushite woman. The Lord struck them with leprosy, but Moses prayed for them to be healed.
In 1 Samuel 24:9-22- David forgaveSaul for trying to kill him. The Lord had put Samuel in David’s hands,
but David showed mercy and let him go.
In Luke 15:11-24- The father forgave the prodigal son for leaving and squandering
his inheritance. (This is how our heavenly Father forgives us.)
In John 8 – Jesus forgives the adulteress. Jesus said that they
were welcome to start the stoning as soon as they felt like they were without
sin and did not deserve a stoning of their own.
In Acts 7:16 - While being stoned to death, Stephen said, “Lord, do not
charge them with this sin.”
Those were his last
words before entering the realm of eternity. He did not carry a spirit of
unforgiveness with him to his grave.
*Are you carrying a spirit of unforgiveness against someone?
Our greatest example.
"So, brothers, I'm telling you that through Jesus
your sins can be forgiven.
- Acts 13:38
-Through Jesus, any sincan be
commandments given to us by God:
1."And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all
your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
2.‘You shall love
your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment GREATER than these.”
Love is the exact opposite of unforgiveness, envy, jealousy, hate,
pride and bitterness. You can't truly love somebody and hold
bitterness or unforgiveness against him or her at the same time. Unforgiveness shows we don't really love Jesus.If we are bitter or hold unforgiveness against somebody,
then we don't
love themas Christloved us.Jesus told us to love one another, as He
has loved us (John 15:12).
If we don't
keep Jesus' commandments, then it proves we don't love Him.
oJohn 14:24, "Whoever does not love me does not
keep my words”
14:15, “If you
love Me, you will keep My commandments”
The Parable: Our responsibility to forgive others
God sent His Son Jesus to die for our sins, so that we may be reconciled
(restored) to Him, without spot or blemish. He asks that we give
others the same
forgiveness that paid for us. Jesus teaches about forgiveness
through a parable in Matthew 18:23-35:
"For this reason, the Kingdom of Heaven can be
compared to a king who decided to bring his accounts up
to date with servants
who had borrowed money from him. In the process, one of his debtors was brought in
who owed him millions of dollars. He couldn't pay, so the king
ordered that he, his wife, his children, and everything he had be
sold to pay the debt. But the man fell down before the king and begged him, 'Oh, sir, be patient with me, and I will pay it all.' Then the king
was filled with pity for him, and he released him and forgave his
debt. "But when the man left the king, he went to a fellow servant
who owed him a few thousand dollars. He grabbed him by the throat and demanded instant payment. His fellow servant
fell down before him and begged for a
little more time. 'Be patient and
I will pay it,' he pleaded. But his creditor wouldn't wait. He had the man arrested and jailed until the debt could be paid in full. "When some of
the other servants saw this, they were very upset. They went to the king and
told him what had happened. Then the king called in the man he had
forgiven and said, 'You evil
servant!Iforgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn't you have mercy on your
fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?'Then the angry
king sent the man to prison until he had paid every penny. "That's what my heavenly Father will do to you if you
refuse to forgive your brothers and sisters in your heart."
Everything God asks us to do
is for OUR benefit!!!
1.We forgive because it’s God’s way(God commands us to
forgive because without forgiveness there is no love).
2.Forgiveness reflects God’s character (God called himself “God of forgiveness” in Nehemiah 9:17
– He promises when His people pray & earnestly seek Him He will forgive
their sins – Chronicles 7:14).
3.Forgiveness brings healing(God’s command
to forgive is backed up for His design for our bodies & souls)
designed us in a way that we should not hold onto grudges and bitternesstowards others. When we do this we pay a price – not
only in our emotional and spiritual health but in our physical health.
like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.”
Clinic cited studies that examine
effect of holding grudges: People who do have higher heart rates, blood pressure, and more tendencies
University of North Carolina: Grp. of male medical students were followed for 25 yrs. Study revealed physicians with hidden hostilitiesdied at a rate that was 6x
greater than those who had moreforgiving attitudes.
University of Michigan: Grp. of women were tracked for 18 yrs. to see who was harboring long-term anger. Women w/suppressed
anger were 3x more likely to have died during the study than those who didn’t have bitter
4.Forgiveness is a tool of the gospel (Our salvation hangs on
forgiveness – Jesus hinges our entire relationship with God on forgiveness: “If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly
Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will
not forgive yours sins”)
We want God to
with uswhen we do wrong,
but we argue as to why we shouldn’t forgiveothers for the deep woundsthey’ve caused us.
We want God to be MERCIFUL towards OUR sins
Yet JUST toward others.
*watch videos clips below*
"The Power of Forgiveness"
HOW ARE YOU TO FORGIVE?
A. Forgive from
your heart . . . not just from your mouth.
B. We must forgive
as Christ forgives:
1. Freely — no constraints.
2. Abundantly — no “piece-meals”
3. Immediately — no time payments.
4. Finally — does not bring it up
— time and again
“HOW OFTEN MUST WE FORGIVE"
Peter saw how concerned Jesus was about sin. He saw
His master offer
forgivenessof sins to the paralytic, signifying how much more important
forgiveness is than any other healingwe may experience. So he asked Jesus…“How often must we forgive?"
Peter thought seven times was sufficient. How
did he arrive at seven?The rabbi said to forgive three times.
Peter doubled that number and added one, thinking this was more than sufficient.
Jesus taught differently than either or the rabbi. He
said “seventy times seven.”
way of saying“no limits.”Matthew
oDo not keep a ledger. Forgiveness is not a matter
oYou can neverout-forgive
oForgiveness doesn’t make you a doormat. Don’t ever put yourself in a harmful situation
Are you stuck in unforgiveness?
The first step to forgiveness is recognizing that we’re stuck in unforgiveness. A lot people remain in unforgiveness because
they have no clue they are even there.
are some ways to assess if YOU are offended or if someone is offended AT you -
AND if you are in a season of “unforgiveness”
SYMPTOMS OF UNFORGIVENESS:
ðWhen you think of that person, does your heart leap up with love and joy for them?
ðDo you desire to have fellowship with them or do you avoid them?
ðDo you carry blame or condemnation for them?
ðDo you still make up scenarios in your head, create speeches, or write letters of what you want to say to
them, or what you should have said to them?
ðDo you sometimes think hard thoughts and have to repent, only to think
those hard thoughts again and have to repent, over and over?
ðDo you have strong emotional reactions when you think of or see the person
who hurt you?
ðCan you sincerely pray for this person and bless them; sincerely desire to see
them blessed and happy?
ðCan you, and do you, honestly rejoice when good things happen for the
person who wounded you?
Do you continue to make accusations against the person?
ðYou complain to others about the person and desire others to join in
agreement with your complaint.
ðYou tell blatant lies about the person who hurt you.
ðYou tell the story with exaggeration and half-truths to draw people on your
side. You look for affirmation or validation.
ðYou blame the person for the hurt and pain that you have - failed
to take responsibility for your own emotions/reactions.
ðYou talk more “about” the person than “to” them.
ðThe rail against the person (Arguments, harsh words, fussing, mocking,
name-calling, smart retorts, even cursing).
ðYou come easily into agreement with evil thoughts about them.
ðYou are constantly bringing up past hurts; which are still fresh in the mind,
no matter how long ago.
Do you continue to feel the need to be separated from the person?
ðYou do not want to talk to the person or have them in your presence.
ðIf you are in their presence, you keep your distance from them.
ðYou do not make normal eye-contactduring conversation.
ðAnger, hurt, bitterness, and resentment is rising up inside you. Growing,
thereby defiling others.
ðYou give them the silent treatment when you are in their presence.
ðYou are offended and begin to build up barriers to shut them out.
ðYou hide from the person and pretend not to be
available when they need help. (shower, busy
today, didn’t check my phone, out all day, sick)
ðYou do not admit you were wrong (this is the spirit of pride-a deadly sin).
ðYou do not do what you ordinarily do in a normal circumstance. You may
be satisfied to get someone else to perform your service.
You’re constantly involved in strife and/or bringing about division?
ðYou are anxious to talk about the person behind their back (Don’t
tell her I said this…”)
ðYou tell the same story over and over again, trying to make them guilty and to make yourself look good.
ðYou are quick to start a fight, register a complaint, and you probably don’t recognize
it, because you justify yourself in doing so.
ðYou hold the person hostage emotionally with constant negative talk and hard actions.
ðYou are short with them when they tried to talk or converse with you.
ðYou have no time for them when they try to engage with you.
ðYou may set a trap to cause them to fall.
ðYou don’t want them to touch you. You resist their advances toward
you, toward reconciliation and peace.
ðYou find it easy to enter into a scheme to hurt them, or defraud them.
ðYou have no peace yourself and you break the peace in an atmosphere.
ðYou try to make them feel guilty in order to make yourself feel
ðIf the person’s a spouse, family member, church brother, you do not want
to share with them as a covenant partner.
ðYou desire to write them off-eliminate them. (you’re dead to me)
Do you have a lack of compassion for the person who offended you?
ðYou feel lime and act like the person is the enemy instead of the demonic spirit that
has them in captivity.
ðYou have a spirit of hard-heartedness.
ðYou find it easy to not care about what happens to them.
ðYou want to see them hurt so that you can have your revenge and get even with them.
ðYou find it easy to be rudeverbally
and physically (sarcastic comments).
Are you operating in ungodliness; a loss of spirituality: a loss of
discernment and spiritual power, ect.?:
ðYour prayer life is ineffective (is God answering your prayers?).
ðYou blame God: “Why did you allow
this to happen?” You also blame others for the events in your life.
ðYou generally do not want spiritual guidance or to receive what the word of God
has to say about the situation.
ðCheck yourself! You may have mood swings; you may be holding a
you may have an attitudetowards the person.
ðYou may have body language and facial expressions that are godly (pouting, mouthy, pushy, aggressive, and
showing an attitude).
ðYou may have “no feelings” at all toward them. This would be contrary to
call for us to love one another, honor, and
prefer one another above ourselves.
ðYour acts of love may be phony, a play act, and in some cases hatred disguised.
ðYou may find yourself struggling with the situation, rather than
committing it to God.
ðYou may be easily deceived because when we reject the word of God
deception is sure to follow (James 1:22).
Are you having feelings of discouragement, disappointment, rejection, and/or
ðYou may be filled with disappointment, discouragement, and shame, because of putting trust in mortal man instead
ðYou may find your love is growing cold. You have less and less love for
ðYou find that you have no fruit of the spirit: love, joy, no peace, long-suffering, gentleness, no goodness, faith,
meekness, and temperance.
ðYou find that you have no home and want to give
quit or leave spouse, family, church, friends, job, etc.
What causes unforgiveness?
Symptoms of unforgiveness,unresolved
anger, and resentment
originate from an “offense”(Real or perceived *body
language). We've all offended or been offended at some point.
Luke 17: Jesus Warns of Offenses
17 Then He
said to the disciples, “It
is impossible that no offenses should come(Situations that cause people to lose faith are certain to arise).
People WILL offend you:“Put me in an atmosphere where there are no offenses.” Keep looking for – or worship the idea of - the “perfect” job, church, spouse, etc.
Anything that doesn’t meet this stipulation is rejected, because you are trying
to find a place where offenses don’t exist. How many jobs have you had,
churches you been to, or relationships you been in?
It is impossible says
Jesus! Offenses WILL come! People are
** “To him whom much is given,
much is required.”The more you have
the more offenses you will incur.
Your level of being able to deal with offenses determines what level
to which God can elevate you. If you can’t handle a 1st grade offense, you can’t have a
master’s degree life.**
But woeto him(the offender) through whom they do come (How horrible it will be for the person who causes someone to lose his
faith). Are you
the one causing people to leave their JOB, CHURCH, and HOME?
2 It would be
better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thrown
into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones (you’re going down). 3 Take heed to yourselves(watch yourself – govern yourself). If your brother sins against you, rebuke him(don’t keep it a secret – don’t be secretly
angry/passively angry – go to him
and rebuke him); And if he
repents, forgive him. 4 And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in
a day returns to you,[b] saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”
The Apostles Ask for More
5 And the
apostles said to the Lord, “Increase our
6 So the
Lord said, “If you have faith as a
mustard seed,you can say to this sycamine tree, ‘Be pulled up by the roots and be planted in
the sea,’ and it would obey you.
·Why a tree –not a mountain? Matt: 17:20 …you can say to this
mountain, 'Move from here to there,' and it will move.”
·Mountain is a huge obstacle – no excavation equipment in their day
·Took trees down all
the time – could walk around it. So why is the tree used as an example?
have roots. Offenses grow bitter rootsdeep
in our heart and it’s hard to pull them out… just like a tree.
It takes “faith” to forgive. God will help us to overcome all
hindrances (offenses/stumbling blocks) to our love.
(Meriam/Webster’s definition): to
angry, or upset by something said
or done .
Offense:(Vine’s/Greek ‘skandalon’) – The name of the part of the trap on which
hung that “lured” the animal
into the trap.
·Satan uses offenses as “bait” to lure us into a
life-time cycle (eph. 4:31) of bitterness,
and even hatred.
(Vine’s definition continued…) – A hindrance
or a stumbling block.
When we allow the spirit of offense to come in, it
becomes a hindrance and a stumbling
block in our love walk with God and others.
– The love of the body grows cold because of the
lawlessness [of offense] and other iniquities.
·We cannot love with “offense” in our hearts.
by our wounds, chokes our
ability to love, to be compassionate, and to experience freedom.
2:9 – “Anyone who claims to be ‘in the light’ but hates a brother or sister, is
still in the darkness.”(Anyone claiming to be in Christ, or to claiming to be
saved, and is living with hatred in their heart, is possibly still unsaved)
The body of Christ of Christ is weak. Our prayers our ineffective
because we’re harboring bitterness/unforiveness in our
hearts… and some don’t even know it.
(I.e Unanswered prayers: praying for a friend/forgiveness, praying for the sick, unsaved - of course some prayers are answered according to God's will.)
We cannot pray or worship properly with offense in our hearts.
*Unforgiveness can block
God from answering our prayersand can
also block His blessingstoward
·Matthew 6:9-15 – Forgive others for prayer to
·Mark 11:24, 25 – Forgive so we can be forgiven. "Therefore I tell you,whatever you ask in prayer,believe that youhave receivedit, and it will be yours.And
wheneveryou stand praying,forgive,if you have anything against anyone, so thatyour Father also who is in heaven may forgive you
YOU HAVE BEEN SINNED AGAINST
Somebody has said
something or done something or failed
to say/do something. And it’s not just you, seated on your throne, rendering a
verdict. It’s God, seated on his throne, saying, “That was wrong.”
we are sinned against, we have two choices (no matter how big the offense):
Bitterness or Forgiveness.
That’s it. There’s no
Who is it that you are bitter against,
or potentially bitter against? Who has sinned against you? Whose face comes into your mind’s
eye? Whose name comes into your mind? Who has offended you, betrayed you, abandoned you, violated you, disappointed you. Who has HURT you?
Who do you blame for your bitterness?
The bible actually counts it a blessing
to overlook an offense:
Proverbs 19:11 - Good sense
makes one slow to anger,and it is his
glory to overlook an offense.
Paul gives 6 commands that help to end the cycle of
bitterness. Who do you need to forgive, and who needs to forgive you? Forgive,
because God in Christ forgave you.
What tends to happen is when we have been
sinned against—we have been victimized—we tend to justify our bitterness. We
say, “But they made me bitter. Here’s what they did.” But, no one can make you
bitter. They’re responsiblefor their sin, but you’re responsible for your bitterness.
Amy Carmichael, a gifted
missionary, said “For a cup brimful of sweet water cannot even spill one drop of bitter
water, however suddenly jolted.”This
is your heart. Someone sins against you all that comes out is what’salready in. If there’s bitterness
- they’re going to expose it.
If there’s sweet
water in your soul, and someone sins against you, they’re exposing,
not changing, what is in your soul.
You can’t say, “I was only sweet water, and then they bumped me, and all the
water became bitter.” No, all the jolting,
and sinning, and conflicting does is reveal, not
change, who we are. If it’s bitter, it’s because we are choosing
bitterness. If it’s sweet, it’s because we’re choosing sweetness. What’s in your heart? What’s in your soul? Sweetness or
Cycle of bitterness:
COMMANDS FOR BITTER BELIEVERS
Ephesians 4:25–29:“So then, get rid of lies. Speak the truth to each other, because we are all members of the same body.Be angry withoutsinning. Don’t go to bed angry.27 Don’t
give the devil any opportunityto work. Thieves must quit stealing and, instead,
they must work hard. They should do something good with their hands so that they’ll have something to share with those in need.Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such
as is good for
building up, as fits
the occasion, that it may givegrace to those who hear.
1.WATCH YOUR GOSSIP
When we’re hurt, we’re prone to leak. Jesus tells us, “Let each one of
you speak the truth with his neighbor”— if you think they sinned
against you - gowork it out with “them”.
Gossip is when we talk about
people; we don’t talk with them.
Gossip: Casual or unconstrained
conversation or reports
about other people, typically involving details that are not
confirmed as being true.
oSocial media: biggest
opportunity to gossip
as quicklyand widelyas possible.You can post—Facebook, Twitter, texts, phones.
“Please pray for ____. He/she is a ‘blank.’ Or please pray for___ can you
believe they said/did that! That is a gossip
prayer request. Play it safe, put in an “unspoken”prayer
request. Less details, the
knows the situation; everyone else doesn’t need to know.
26:20: “Without wood, a fire goes out.
Without gossip, a
quarrel dies down.”
When we’re hurt,
we want a big fire. We want everybody to see it. We want people to gather
around our fire in the darkness, so we could leak and vent and gossip with
them. We want a blaze!
God’s people are to bring water to
the fire, notwood. Gossip is just dry
2.WATCH YOUR EMOTIONS
“Be angry and do not sin.”Exodus 34:6 - God describes himself as “A God who is slow to
anger.” God has a long wick. God’s not always on the threshold of eruption.By the power of the Holy Spirit, you
and I need to be like that.
3.WATCH YOUR CLOCK
“Do not let the sun go down on your
anger.”Don’t let things extend
or delay. Take time to pray,
journal, think things through, but don’t wait days, months, and years; it’s
like untreated cancer in the soul when left that long. Some fear conflict so you choose bitterness
over conflict. Talk about it – resolve it.
4.WATCH YOUR ENEMY
enemy - Give no opportunity to the devil.”Secular psychology/counseling will not include Satan and
demons when dealing with bitterness, strain-relationships, or forgiveness – but
the bible does. The bible says Satan and demons hate God and his people; which
love it when God’s people shoot
one another. Saves Satan a bullet, AND it publicly damages the reputation of Jesus.
Demons get their foothold in the church, our families, and our
relationships through bitterness.
5.WATCH YOUR HANDS
honest work with your hands.” What do you do with your hands when you’re bitter? Do you
punch something? Do you shove someone? Do you grab someone? Do you throw
something? Do you slam a door? Do you jump in a car? Do you slam it into gear
and speed away? What do you do with your hands?Do something
constructive, not destructive. It’s devastating what people do with their hands
when they’re bitter… you grab your phone,
grab your laptop, and declare war!
6.WATCH YOUR MOUTH
corrupting talk come out of your mouths.” Bitter people tend to rewrite, revise history. “I will omit
these details that paintme in a negative light.
I will emphasize
these details that paint themin
a negative light. And I will not
speak the whole truth.”
Who do you need to forgive and who needs to forgive you? Search your heart – make a list – and
I must take – People I must forgive and ask for forgiveness:
·When we forgive, it opens us up to
God's forgiveness (Matthew 6:15)
·Puts us in a receiving position when we
pray (Mark 11:24, 25),
·Helps us become spiritually fruitful
(John 15:10, 12, 5)
·We know we have passed from spiritual
death to life when we love each other (1 John 3:14)!
·When we keep God's commandments and
love one another, we prove that we love Jesus (John 14:21), and we abide in
Christ's love (John 15:10)!
“Whenever two people disagree or get into a conflict,
there is a chance to either allow it to destroy the relationship, to grow
bitter/indifferent toward each other, or to become even closer after the
conflict... much closer than before! Forgiving each other, bearing each other's
weaknesses, overseeing faults, asking for forgiveness and easily
forgive... It is only because of pride and
a lack of love that the
latter seems so difficult to achieve. Let us love, forgive, be humble
and seek how to improve. When I look back at my mistakes and see when I have
wronged others, I can only plead for mercy and knowing how much Christ
forgave/forgives me, it becomes an easy task to forgive others also. How many
times do I fail to love others because I forget about Christ's love for me.” – Eleana Bauhman